― Pema Chödrön,
We now see that the only way that we could love ourselves is by loving others,
and the only way that we could truly love others is to love ourselves.
The difference between self-love and love of others is very small,
once we really understand.”
― Norman Fischer, Training in Compassion:
Although most of us were a bit too young and crazy to pull it off at the time, many of us had been to the mountain top. There we saw the Real Deal. But seeing that-- and even believing that -- isn't enough.
For us, the word "love" is quite ambiguous. In English, what we call "love" can be that warm glow that emerges from the ethereal domain of unconditional, unselfish agape, or it can be the fiery emotion that erupts from the nether realms of green eyed monsters and wrathful, jealous gods. It's pretty clear that "I love you so much that I'll kill anyone who looks at you, then you, too..." isn't exactly what Jesus had in mind when he taught about Love, right? It seems at least a bit more precision would be helpful.