"Mindfulness and Meditation allow us to open our hearts, relax our bodies, and clear our minds enough to experience the vast, mysterious, sacred reality of life directly. With Practice we come to know for ourselves that eternity is available in each moment.

Your MMM Courtesy Wake Up Call:
Musings on Life and Practice
by a Longtime Student of Meditation

Friday, November 21, 2014

Good Grief!

"Nothing is more natural than grief, no emotion more common to our daily experience.  
It's an innate response to loss in a world where everything is impermanent."
-- Stephen Levine, Unattended Sorrow

"The problem, therefore, lies not with our pain for the world, but in our repression of it."
-- Joanna Macy, Coming Back to Life

With the events of the past month, the emergence of grief in my life. seems to be a reoccurring theme.  I awoke in tears from a lucid dream a few minutes ago.  As I transitioned from dreaming to the waking state, I felt my heart open through grief into the boundless spaciousness of the One Love. I came fully awake feeling energized, grateful --  and at peace.

I'm no expert practitioner, but it seems that my renewed focus on Dream Yoga is working.  It's nice to be able to sleep on the job.

Although the recent dreams I've had of levitation and flying have been a lot more "fun", I'm deeply grateful to have had this dream emerge from the cradle of an afternoon nap. (At age 68, I've found Napping Practice to be quite wonderful.)  The dream gave me an opportunity to further process the losses that have incurred in my life, and to move through personal grief to connect more deeply with the genuine heart of sadness that is part of our shared human condition. I've found that tears are often the key that unlocks the Gateless Gate to the One Love. A good cry can be the portal to boundless beauty, joy and gratitude.  As Jesus proclaimed long ago, "Blessed be those who mourn, for they shall be comforted."

In the Dream State, I did -- and I was. Alhamdulillah.

Grief is rarely that easy, but thankfully, it's become easier over the years. I've had lots of help.  I'm grateful to have had the opportunity to attend retreats with two contemporary American Buddhist masters of a "good cry":  Joanna Macy and Stephen Levine.  Although the focus of their work is different (Macy empowers Ecological Activists.  Levine works with Death and Dying.), each of these gifted Teachers gets to the Heart of the Matter with incredible grace, insight and skill. Through meditation, guided mediation, talks, and interpersonal exercises, they each skillfully guide retreat participants toward an experience of Open Heartedness.  True spiritual elders (Macy is 85. Levine, 77), they bring the essence of the Teachings out of the Sutra books, to place the limitless energy of love, compassion and forgiveness squarely in the reality of one's own personal experience. It is high and holy magic.

Stephen Levine
Facing and embracing the pain and sorrow that is inherent in life is no mean feat. In contemporary capitalist society, we're conditioned to avoid this aspect of existence like the plague.  Rather than opening our hearts in true human compassion to the reality of our interdependence with all Life/Death, we are programmed to "get real" and race through our lives walled off as separate beings in pursuit of power, status, and material prosperity.

Conditioned to hold our own pain and the pain of the world at arm's length, encouraged to keep a stiff upper lip, we aren't able to turn towards Life/Death with a compassionate embrace and a loving kiss.  As a result, all too often, we then scurry through our lives with a closed heart until we encounter the loss of a loved one.  Then, as Stephen Levine points out, our grief may be overwhelming, compounded by the regret that our love was unexpressed.

He encourages us to begin the process of opening our hearts now -- before it's too late.

Joanna Macy
Similarly, moving from the personal to the global at a time when the survival of the web of life on this planet is threatened, Joanna Macy encourages us to move beyond apathy to realize that our world itself is a loved one in need of intensive care. The meditations and experiential exercises she has woven together guide and support us to turn toward one another to touch and express the grief felt about the environmental devastation of our times.  In   opening our hearts to the pain, we unleash the enormous energy of our deep caring.  Taking heart from the beauty and courage within and among us, we can then join with others to act -- hopefully, before it is too late.

An Engaged Buddhist, drawing on the Shambala Prophecy she learned from her Tibetan Buddhist teacher Choegyal Rinpoche, the body of work Joanna Macy presents empowers us to become active bodhisattvas,  using the non-violent weapons of insight and compassion to dispel the forces that fuel the human misery, warfare, and environmental devastation of our times.

To me, the Heart Work that each of these teachers have brought forth are among the most important Practices of our time.  At the risk of seeming ridiculous, I think that the future of the planet may very well hinge on our individual and collective ability to have a good cry.*

The simple act of sitting down quietly to focus on the sensations of our breath can begin the process.  When we take the time to gently and carefully explore our own experience in the reality of the present moment, things change.  With Practice, we move from our heads into our hearts.

With commitment, effort, and patience, the Practice continues to deepen over the years.  We come to then understand that it's a lifelong endeavor.  At certain points we will find the teachers and teachings that resonate with that stage of our journey and we are drawn to intensify our Practice by taking the time and space to join with others to practice in sanghas, retreats and workshops -- or, as I have found, on the streets and in soup kitchens.

People's Climate March, NYC 2014
I am deeply grateful that through the brilliance of teachers like Joanna Macy and Stephen Levine, the Teachings are increasingly accessible and continue to evolve.  Through their efforts, both the Mahayana and Theravada have been reincarnated in this age right in the belly of the beast.  There is a living Yankee Dharma emerging in the heart of the most  powerful, and possibly, the most destructive nation on earth.  This is a cause for hope -- and action.  (One of Joanna Macy's latest books is entitled Active Hope.)

Although I acknowledge the utter impossibility of saving all sentient beings each day as I recite the Bodhisattva Vows (beings are numberless, after all), like many others I've dedicated my life and practice to doing exactly that.

All our loved ones throughout time and space, all the  myriad plant and animal species that share this planet with us humanoids, and Mother Earth herself, are crying out to us at this precarious moment in the history of the planet.  I can't think of anything better to do.

How about you?

For more information:
The work of Joanna Macy: http://www.joannamacy.net/)
The work of Stephen Levine: http://levinetalks.com/

* If you didn't recognize it, the phrase I used is from Che Guevara.   In 1965, he wrote "At the risk of seeming ridiculous, let me say that the true revolutionary is guided by a great feeling of love."
 I basically agree with Che's statement and respect his courage, integrity and sacrifice.  I just wonder if he would have lived in a different age and had a "good cry", if he may have chosen Gandhi's non-violent resistance instead to confront the injustice he saw.


Kate Hart said...

Thank you, Lance, for sharing your experience and reflections. I am happy that you have experienced support and kindness to help you through these days. The culture certainly does not invite us to be with the tough things that come up. There are so many ways to escape. Or lash out. But the way you describe of opening the heart, painful as it may be, in my experience, can have a sweetness and a lasting healing effect. I feel fortunate to have worked locally with Parvati Grais,who has studied and practiced in the Sufi tradition. She helped me experience the healing power of opening to and being with the challenges in my path. Blessings to you, Kate Hart.

Unknown said...

Once again you AMAZE me!!
Meditation in India

anne marie said...

I feel grateful for your open heart that brings to life still others. Thank you, Lance. <3

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Deny2deny said...

شرکت طراحی لوگو حرفه ای در تهران و کرج

goonlic said...

طراحی آرم بخشی از فرآیند برندسازی شرکت ها و مجموعه ها است.

بیش از 70 درصد تبلیغات برندینگ بر روی آرم های تجاری انجام می شود.

برای داشتن تبلیغات موثر و کارآمد، کسب و کار شما نیاز به یک لوگوی حرفه ای دارد.

ممکن است چندین شرکت در ایران وجود داشته باشند که به صورت حرفه ای تمامی خدمات برندینگ را ارائه می دهند.

از این رو شرکت برندینگ حرفه ای ریوال آنلاین می تواند خدمات مختلف را به عنوان خدمات حرفه ای طراحی لوگو به شما ارائه دهد.

Nimsik said...

ساخت لوگو با بیان خلاقانه مفهوم برند، تعامل مشتری را تضمین می کند

ایجاد لوگوی خلاقانه برند شما را مجبور می کند تا بدون زحمت و با پنهان کردن مفهوم برند در لایه های طراحی لوگو و رنگ ها، از دیگران پیشی بگیرد.

در نتیجه مخاطب با نشستن در ضمیر ناخودآگاه می تواند درآمد خود را تامین کند.

BangCITYYY said...

لوگو چهره کسب و کار شما است و تقریبا اولین عامل در شناسایی برند شما با مشتریان بالقوه است.

goonlic said...

جهت خرید رپرتاژ قوی برای سئو و بهینه سازی خارجی وب سایت خود به این سایت ها مراجعه کنید:


amozesh said...

فروشگاه استوت یک فروشگاه آنلاین ایرانی است که در سال 1401 تاسیس شد. این فروشگاه در زمینه فروش محصولات متنوعی از جمله سوپرمارکت، لوازم خانگی، دیجیتال، پوشاک، لوازم آرایشی و بهداشتی و غیره فعالیت می کند. فروشگاه استوت با ارائه طیف گسترده ای از محصولات و خدمات با کیفیت، توانسته است رضایت مشتریان زیادی را جلب کند.