"Mindfulness Practice isn't just about escaping to some magical inner realm devoid of life's challenges. The Practice is about progressively opening your heart and calming your mind enough to engage Life directly, to be more fully Present in a kind, clear, and helpful way."

Your MMM Courtesy Wake Up Call! Musings on Life and Practice by a long time student of meditation.

Sunday, January 22, 2017

Day By Day: Three Tips on Daily Practice

 “The gift of learning to meditate is the 
greatest gift you can give yourself in this lifetime.” 
-- Sogyal Rinpoche

“When we are mindful, deeply in touch with the present moment,
our understanding of what is going on deepens, and we begin to be
filled with acceptance, joy, peace and love.”
― Thich Nhat Hạnh



I would say that 90% of the folks who have wandered into one of the Mindfulness Circles I facilitate have already tried mediation.  Comparing notes on Practice in the Circle, most of those folks have expressed that there was an obvious improvement in the quality of their lives when they meditated.  Yet, they found that they couldn't maintain a regular daily practice.

Sound familiar?

The inability to maintain a daily practice is, I think, quite widespread.  It's fun to see a newcomer to the Circle mention, often somewhat sheepishly, that they couldn't establish and sustain a daily practice, only to discover when I ask for a show of hands, that everyone there has had -- or continues to have -- a similar experience.

It only stands to reason.  

The entire thrust of our conditioning today operates against sitting still in silence.  Creatures of habit, we are individually and collectively awash in habitual patterns of noise, stimulation, and activity, often feeling quite stressed and fatigued.  Sometimes aware of a subtle, or not so subtle, discontent with ourselves and our lives, we race on yearning for it to be different.

The Good News is that it can.

More than anything, the establishment of a regular daily meditation practice may be the key to making the difference.  At this stage of the journey, I've learned that there are three things that  seem to have helped me and others to bring this about.  Perhaps, they can help you as well.
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1.  Setting Your Intention

Rather than approaching a commitment to daily practice as another "should", take the time to get in touch with your deeper motivations, the reasons you wish to make the commitment.

Even if we are simply choosing to meditate to be free of stress and suffering, that impetus is emerging from your Heart of Hearts, that space within and beyond you that is fundamentally benevolent.  From that (I call it the One Love these days), emerges the deeply human aspiration to be peaceful, kind, compassionate and clear-minded.

However you choose to conceptualize that wish to be truly loving, bring that into your awareness each morning as you arise as a prayer, a stated intention, a vow.  It is helpful to remind yourself of that commitment. Write it down.  Post a version is some form so that you will see it "first thing", next to your clock radio, bathroom mirror, etc.  As Practice develops the specific focus and wording may change as your perspective widens and shifts.

2.  Setting Your Attitude

Whatever specific meditative technique you are working with at the moment, stay in touch with your capacity to be accepting and forgiving.  There is no "right" experience in mediation, no "bad" session.  It's simply a matter of time on task.  Through Practice we are cultivating Unconditional Friendliness toward ourselves and others by being Present and Accepting.    

In simply noticing,  being aware of our experience without judging it, we are gently and diligently cultivating an Open Heart and Clear Mind.  Even being open and accepting to how and when we are not open and accepting is the edge of Practice.  We are aligning ourselves with the qualities of an Open Heart.  This is how the real healing takes place.

3. Creating the Container in Time and Space

Bringing your intention into the material plane is extremely helpful.  Create a special place in your home for mediation, preferably a space that is quiet and out the way.   If at all possible leave your cushion or chair in position.  

Many people find that creating an altar helps.  Some folks choose specifically religious icons, photographs of their teachers, etc.  The objects on my altar these days include a candle, incense container, and natural items that I've gathered.

Having been influenced by Soto Zen, for decades I sat with eyes open and downcast facing the wall with the altar to my side.  Many folks meditate with eyes closed with the altar in front of them.  Nowadays, I sit in front of a window.  Sometimes, my eyes are downcast with my gaze focused on the wall, sometimes I gaze at the sky and songbirds in the tree out the window. 

Meditating first thing in the morning is often recommended.  I've found that meditating early, before you and others are swept up into the busyness of the day is quite helpful.  Putting "first things first", melding intention and action at the beginning of the day can be especially powerful and help launch you into a day in the proper frame of mind.  

Set a specific time for the duration of the session and use a timer if you have one.  (Digital clocks, on-line timers, iPhone apps, etc., are widely available.) Tying your mind up in deciding when enough is enough or even watching the clock can be distracting.  Although 20 minutes is a widely proclaimed minimum, in the beginning even allocating 5 or 10 minutes will be productive and establish a foundation to build on. 

The Bottom Line


Life is lived moment to moment, day by day.  We humanoids are creatures of habit. Although the Behaviorists may say that is all we actually are, my own experience is that we are infinitely more than our conditioning.  From the depths of our True Nature we get to choose at least some of our habits. 

I feel blessed these days that as each morning begins, I find myself taking a few steps across my bedroom to my little corner of the world to Sit Still for an hour.  It's become a habit.  Each morning, aspiration, intention, attitude and activity merge into One on that zafu.  It's made a tremendous difference in my life.

Establishing a regular daily meditation didn't happen overnight.  I had to begin anew any number of times.  Yet, at this stage stage of the Journey, I can say with confidence: At a certain point, it Happens

It just takes Practice.

Originally Posted January 2015.  Revised

1 comment:

rinus said...

Dear mr.Smith
Many thanks for making this blog, i really like it
can you please write what you do for meditation an hour a day?
i do vipassana and really like it and the outcome of it
Regards
rinus
ps: i already sent this message but it didn't show up at your blog
maybe i have just to wait...