To live fully is to be always in no-man's-land,
we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”
That brought a smile to my face as well.
I smiled again.
Although the thoughts and emotions that emerge from the causes and conditions of our personal and collective histories can make it appear otherwise, what is right there in front of us is a constant Invitation to the Dance. We can either explore the possibility of opening our hearts and minds (and our eyes and ears and arms, etc.) to accept and appreciate the Absolute Miracle of the Mystery that we are part of each moment-- or not. It's just that simple.
It takes Practice.
At the heart of Practice is a fundamental choice emerging from what Zen Buddhists call "the Way Seeking Mind". A deep part of our nature calls us to get in touch with the Real Deal-- and we respond. We set out, in one way or another, to figure it out. We choose to relate to our lives as a process of discovery. Whether we take on a formal teacher or not, we become students of life itself.
As it is, we've often invested much time and effort in what our hyper-materialistic society characterizes as "growing up." We've taken a lot of pride in what we "know." We've clung to our opinions about things with a vengeance. Now, we realize we have to do some serious shape shifting. Rather than flee from a certain quiet discomfort lurking in the recesses of our awareness, we open to it.
Then, at a certain point, it dawns on us. We see quite clearly that it is best to approach things with the basic openness and curiosity we experienced as children. In fact, Yogi Jesus is reported to have said this is a requirement for entering the Kingdom of Heaven. "Lest ye be as little children..."
Although the frame of reference and terminology are different, many Buddhist teachers seem to agree. As Suzuki Roshi presented it, Zen mind is the mind of a beginner. Beneath and beyond our conditioned patterns, we each have the inherent capacity to open to each moment with a deep care and curiosity. We can come to experience the ease and joy and wonder that emerges from not knowing.
Although a commitment to a formal meditation practice is an excellent foundation for honing our ability to settle down to perceive the reality of our own experience in deeper and fuller ways, the Practice develops and matures as we commit to bringing that same precise, yet open and relaxed, attention to the events of our day to day lives.
As we open to meet each moment as a teacher and a teaching, as we develop the willingness and ability to let go of our own preconceived notions and the many knots that our graspings and aversions produce, things get easier -- even in the midst of what we might call the "bad times."
With Practice, it becomes easier to discern and release the emotional reactivity of our conditioning and let go of the narratives that we've created to "know" (i.e. control) what's going on. As practice deepens, it becomes easier and easier to approach each moment with a childlike curiosity and without an agenda.
This changes everything.
Through the gracious spaciousness of not knowing, you don't have to work so hard. As you perceive the fleeting and mysterious effervescence of each moment, you realize more deeply that it's not all up to the "you" that you think are. Seeing clearly that each moment is vast, inseparable from an infinite web of causes and conditions, you can relax. And, if you keep your heart and mind open, what the Tibetan Buddhists call "Primordial Wisdom" emerges. Compassion and understanding naturally arise. At that point, you may even be able to help out -- or not.
It just takes Practice.