"Mindfulness Practice isn't just about escaping to some magical inner realm devoid of life's challenges. The Practice is about progressively opening your heart and calming your mind enough to engage Life directly, to be more fully Present in a kind, clear, and helpful way."

Your MMM Courtesy Wake Up Call! Musings on Life and Practice by a Long-time Student of Meditation.

Sunday, June 12, 2016

A Solid Grasp of Reality

“In reality there are no separate events. Life moves along like water,
it's all connected to the source of the river is connected to the mouth and the ocean.”
-- Alan Watts, The Essential Alan Watts

"It’s not impermanence per se, or even knowing we’re going to die, that is the cause of our suffering, the Buddha taught. Rather, it’s our resistance 
to the fundamental uncertainty of our situation."
-- Pema Chodron, Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change

All I could do was grin.  At a Mindfulness Circle this week, eight of us had gathered  to meditate and explore the second slogan of the Lojong Trainings: "Regard All Dharmas As Dreams".

Although all assembled, myself included, are essentially beginners in the study of these Teachings, I imagine that the energetic, sincere, often profound, sometimes amusing, discussion that emerged could have been a conversation among senior monks somewhere.  Although a couple of folks, perhaps quite aware of the limitations, perhaps even the inadvisability, of placing our collective attention on words and discursive thought didn't participate, the rest of us jumped right in. 

As I understood it, what materialized was no more, no less than a conversation about the true nature of reality and our individual ability to actually experience the truth of our existence. Although none of us is really a Buddhist scholar and many of us may not even consider ourselves Buddhists,  assertions about Emptiness, Impermanence, Non-Self, Co-dependent Origination, Interdependence and Oneness, were offered and explored,  then dissected and re-assembled.  In about half an hour we covered a lot of ground exploring the "groundlessness" of existence.

I loved it.  

At several points the fundamentals of Zen were touched on as phrases were turned, then turned on their heads without altering the meaning!  Even when there was apparent "disagreement" with a presentation or the mode of presentation, it still felt like we were all basically on the same page.  There was an underlying fabric of good will and good heart all the while. 
It was an absolute hoot -- relatively speaking. 

It made my heart glow.

Oh, Get Real!

Gaining a "solid grasp of reality" is considered one of the important aspects of growing up in
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contemporary society.  The message is pretty pervasive.  We are encouraged to get real, to be "realistic" as we establish ourselves in the world.  John Lennon's imaginings notwithstanding, being called  a "dreamer" usually isn't a cause for pride. *

Yet, central to skillful means of Mahayana Buddhism is the notion that Life itself is "like a flickering lamp, an illusion, a phantom, or a dream." The Teachings indicate that when our own experience is examined closely, we see clearly that there is a profoundly insubstantial and transitory character to everything. Our attempts to resist that, to grasp onto anything to create a sense of security, are actually the primary cause of our personal suffering.  

A solid grasp of reality?  In actuality, neither solidity nor grasping are attuned to the nature of Reality.  Observed clearly we see that Life is not solid, it exists as a constant flow.  That being the case, grasping at anything will inevitably cause rope burns.  It doesn't really work. 

What then?


As Practice develops and our ability to see and accept this matures,  an awareness of something else also emerges.  As we merrily row our boats gently down the stream sensing that  "life is but a dream",  as we increasingly relax into the fullness of each moment, we may just notice that the vast blue sky stretching overhead is clearly reflected in that stream as well.  So is everything else -- ourselves included.

At that point we may even feel free enough to really "live the dream."

How cool is that? 

(* "Imagine" is actually one of my favorite songs. ) 

Originally Posted, May 9, 2014. Revised.

2 comments:

Conveyance Doctor said...

In comparison to you, I am a novice in terms of your current posting about Life and being a "dreamer." Currently, I see the Yin-Yang of Life/Dreamer vs Mindfulness Moments/Eating/Sheltering/Gathering. Currently, I am "hanging onto" both ends of the dichotomy...as I see it. I must have a lot to learn, and look forward to it.

Lance Smith said...

Dear Conveyance Doctor,
To be honest, as the Practice deepens I feel like a novice more and more myself! I've found, though, that there is a point where the "dichotomies" are experienced more as a continuum of experience and that "hanging on" to anything at all isn't really possible. It's all fluid and mutable.

Hopefully, I still a lot to learn myself as well-- although at age 70, I imagine I'm writing the final chapters these days. LOL
Be Well and Stay in Touch,
One Love,
Lance